{"id":1760,"date":"2018-08-08T18:19:00","date_gmt":"2018-08-08T18:19:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/happychildren.life\/?p=1760"},"modified":"2022-03-15T09:36:18","modified_gmt":"2022-03-15T09:36:18","slug":"bowlby-attachment-theory-how-to-teach-children-to-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/happychildren.life\/bowlby-attachment-theory-how-to-teach-children-to-love\/","title":{"rendered":"Bowlby Attachment Theory"},"content":{"rendered":"
Before love, there is satisfaction. Satisfaction is a love seed. From that seed, attachment germinates and love develops.<\/p>\n
Let me explain … Namely, babies, in the beginning, feel only disturbance and satisfaction. Over time, disturbance develops in anger, disgust, and fear. On another side, satisfaction develops in excitement, favor and many other positive emotions among which is love. So, in order for children to love their parents, parents must satisfy their needs while they are helpless babies. On that way, parents develop the attachment of their babies which are crucial for their socio-emotional development. Bowlby Attachment Theory explains that by pointing out the importance of babies’ attachment to persons for all relationships that babies will establish with other people later.<\/p>\n
Edward John Mostyn Bowlby<\/a><\/span> was a British psychologist who are famous as a pioneer of attachment theory. Here, in gratitude for his discovery, I will call this theory Bowlby Attachment Theory.<\/p>\n According to Bowlby Attachment Theory, an attachment is a behavioural system that is defined as seeking and maintaining closeness to another person. Depending on the age, nature and current mood, babies are looking for an adult by smiling, calling or usually crying when they feel the need for closeness. When adults respond to these signals of babies by cuddling or smiling, babies calm down feeling satisfaction. And, from satisfaction, positive emotions will develop in the meantime.<\/p>\n Therefore, babies are active in an interaction that results in attachment, although the attachment depends primarily on adults’ reaction to babies’ signals. Babies stimulate attachment between parents and them by expressing their needs. Adults stimulate the attachment with babies by meeting their needs. So, if a child needs someone to satisfy his\/her needs, the child will cry or try to establish an interaction. <\/p>\n